December 25, 2012
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“happily ever after”
I don’t understand why and how marriage fails?
Seeing this pic broke my heart when i somehow kinda brought these two people together, encouraged her to take the plunge and flew all the way to bendigo- Australia just for them to be there to witness the most important day of their life.
What happened to that love once so beautiful and sweet?
Why do feelings and love fade?
What happened to the vows made in front of God to respect and love unconditionally?
Its just me, but i don’t believe in ‘happily ever after’ its just a myth and to think that she actually bought her own wedding gown and then there’s this whole lot of other expeneses that comes with the wedding…
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I have been married 57 years. Romantic love gets you started. Then dating helps you know the potential spouse some, but marriage is hard work and takes commitments. It is about far more than satisfying sex glands. When the children come, it takes lots of commitment to do a good job raising the kids and there are no perfect parents or kids.
I will not go religious on you, but my wife and I became Christians on the same day 10 years into our marriage. For us, it helped. I know there are horrible true stories about their about Christianity, but it improved our marriage.
Wishing you the best.
frank
that is heartbreaking. i need to think about this
Myself, I got married before I knew myself. If you don’t know yourself, how can you choose a mate? I had not matured enough to know what I wanted in life. I wanted a person to travel the world with, have fun, and enjoy life with. She wanted to save money, stay home, and play all grownup. Talk and talk and talk about the furture before getting married is my recommendation.
I have been married for 20 years and I can tell you that the concept of “happily ever after” is partially the problem. If you expect a marriage like the movies, you will be disappointed. In the movies there is one major conflict and they have to get passed it and then they come back together again. In marriage over 20 years, there are 1000 major conflicts that you have to get over. That takes adaptability not love.
I hope I just didn’t kill it for anyone. I said this once in a thread and two people who have never been married attacked me. I couldn’t help but to chuckle. Just give it 10-20 years my friends.
That doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means there is going to be some pretty hard crap during marriage.
The saying time airs all truths….so too it is with people. You don’t just have to be honest to others, you MUST be true to yourself and only be with someone that is the same. “Happily ever after” are just words, living it is not just happy, maybe closest to most content would be more accurate.
@Teh_Redfoe - your right vegimite
Merry Christmas n boxing day zeb!!:-X
@crazyforfsh48 - how young were you when you got hitched mate?
@TheTheologiansCafe - That sounds pretty scary… I agree, it takes someone you are comfortable with to be adaptable to whatever, it warms me to see people being married for many years and stil loves each other in their own special way…
I don’t know what to say. Its sad.
To me, I don’t think there is a recipe for love. Sometimes couples are complete matches and make it to the end while others are utter opposites and remain faithful forever.
So I don’t think there is a recipe for love. Love is cold. Love is warm. Love is blissful joy. Love is heartbreakingly sad. Love is many things to many different people and… you just have to find your “match” in this life.
btw, thanks for your comment. Its really nice meeting you. My family is actually Chinese from Vietnam just like there are Indians in Nepal and other areas. (I learned that because my Indian friend is from Nepal).
Anyways, I hope your friend feels better. You must be a very loyal and faithful friend to fly so far to their wedding. Thats very admirable… you don’t find to many very caring friends these days.
@KenxanderDaGr8 - I disagree, and believe that the receipe to love is communication, understanding, then along comes, patience and other attributes needed in any relationship.
It’s awful what happened had to result in a divorce.. Damn, I just hate that word! I find relationship a scary thing, and yet there’s this beauty bout it, bringing out the strengths of each other, and enjoying each other i guess…
Uh.. oh! So you don’t speak Mandarin than! haha awk!
I just feel like laughing thinking about it, cos nepalese look chinese to me…lol and awww Nepal, must be nice, i’d like to go there someday and see the himalayas. I’ve a chinese friend from thailand, so i get what you mean.. heh
There are some people in my life, i would travel half way across the world for
Nice knowing you too.