February 4, 2013
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Pity date
Being friendly comes with a price, i thought it’d be cool to be mates with the bartender, you’d get priority and all right? And also he seemed like a decent guy so when he asked me for my no, i gave without much hesitation.
Big Mistake! My phone kept ringing and ringing and ringing thru the week… I thought ignoring calls or texts is a sure fire sign to express i’m not interested but Noooo.
So he called again right, i answered the 4th time he called today and agreed to meet for dinner, since i was round the corner and could do with some company for din din and found out sth completely ridiculous about him….
Dude’s only like 21!!! No shit!
Hiding my embarrassment, i thought I’d just go for honesty and he was flabbergasted when i told him my age.. ‘I’m like ‘yeah i get this all the time’, not sure if its a good thing.
Anyway, dinner went well, he already paid for dinner when i got out of the restroom, i felt obliged to stay for a bit, would be rude to just leave abruptly so, i talked bout the movie I’ve watched and went on and on about it how funny it was and the next thing, i know, dude gets ticks to watch ‘Haunted House’ and asked me if I’ll watch it with him, I should have declined and say No, but instead i said ‘sure!
Bad decision Mel!We had time to kill and this is when shit gets uncomfortable, and weird, he put his arms round my neck while walking… Maybe its just me but I’m not used to getting too close to a person I’ve just met and saw a CD/ DVD shop from the corner of my eye and thought it be wise to go in before he gets too ‘comfortable’, without making the arm thing a big deal out of it and i can just walk around, there were earphones for sale and was gonna buy to keep a spare, had i known he’d pay for this too, i would have gotten the expensive Dre beats, Ive been meaning to get, just saying…
So the movie starts, and dude gets annoyingly close, holding my hands, staring at my face, felt so weird so i excused myself halfway thru the movie saying i have to go and apologised, not sure why i should even apologise.. He followed me… Ughh!
He apologised, and went on bout how he fall for me when he saw me and that he likes me very much and all that bull…. Well anyway I ended it, firmly saying we can’t be friends no more and got on the bus feeling utterly disgusted!
I’d never go on pity dates ever again or dates in general or maybe I’ve closed my heart to love. Either-way, I know I’m old school but that’s just how i roll… :-X
Comments (7)
Hm. Maybe I’m not used to getting so close so soon, either? I mean…traditionally people have sex on the 3rd date…but unless I knew you before we started dating that seems super sketch. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable with the touching, either.
If you are not genuinely interested in a guy, don’t waste your time no matter how many times he asks. Block his number if you have to. The one thing I would hate is knowing that a girl that I take the time and money to treat to an evening of fun, is just doing it either out of pity or because she wants a free meal.
So…will you be able to go back to that bar?
I would have walked out too. creepy!
In my dating days a few guys have gotten closer trying to hold hands, or huggin way too much, or hand on neck thing..haha they don’t understand that you need to get to the heart before a girl will let you get to her physically.
A girl has a lot to keep in mind when it comes to guys.
Every little decision will lead to the future…whichever she wants -because SHE is the prize
Here’s the thing: Everyone loves Melly.
@wildchildofthebluemoon - yeah i agree, but even then there are people who’d do it on the first date, i feel sick thinking of it.
@QuantumStorm - Good Point Q! I asked for it, bartenders are known to be the biggest sleeze, what was i thinking..lol
@TutelageOfTheMundane - Never Ever again. Cross my heart! Sucks tho, i really liked the rooftop bar.
@dorydabomb - You said it so beautifully
@TrainTrack - Everyone love the TrainTrack too
I agree with @QuantumStorm - but don’t say you asked for it. He is a big boy and he can handle you telling him you aren’t interested or not giving him your phone number to begin with. I think a lot of misunderstandings arise because society would have women to believe that they have to be nice to everyone when honesty is the best policy. You can still be friendly to a guy and tell him you aren’t interested. Most men won’t mind. Men that act like douches b/c you reject them aren’t worth wasting your time on anyway.