June 30, 2013
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What is Love…
I had this cloze passage prepared for my class quite some time ago bout this lame dog, that nobody would take a second glance at in the pet store, but not that neighbourhood kid… He saw sth in that dog, amongst all the other pupps and revealed his disability with his leg and concluded that this dog would need someone who’d understand him.
I’m the kind of girl, as any other girls I’m sure, when I do like someone, and gotten smitten. I’m gonna be missing and thinking and be waiting for his darned calls or texts… :/ My sis calls me ‘the romantic one’ cos I fall too easily. I’ve been talking to ‘A’ for a fair bit now, ‘B is out and I’ve gotten to know ‘A’ a lil better but I guess I can’t be too sure… But yet I feel like I understand him. I never really thought I’d like him at first. He Is Big and Fat and has the stubble that I absolutely adore, not sure why, but I’m drawn to him for some reason (:
The thing is now that he knows or figured that I kinda like him a little. I have all this doubts and reservations even thou he tells me everything, with his ex finance, sending him all these abusive texts, Ive also been on fb stalking duty and could not help but notice how he’s got all these beautiful sexy girls on his Fb :/ Also, I’m only hearing his side of the story. I know from experience, it takes 2 people to make or break a relationship… Why does this have to be such a game?! Why can’t it just be smooth and simple.. I hate how I’m missing him now, waiting for him to call. I wanted to do the pros and cons and than I thought, that would just be silly, I used to dismiss guys over the stupidest silliest things.. and I don’t want to be alone forever now waiting for ‘Mr Perfect’ to whisk me away.
I was just thinking, whatever happened to ‘standards?’ But then this standard thing will just become a list of endless unrealistic qualities I’d be seeking and really there’s no perfect person out there. Quite frankly, I’m also quite sick of the condescending look people give. U guys can suck it! All You Happy people in relationships!But…. If a man, who can’t love my god, how would he ever love me? This woman with flaws, how could he (agape) love me in such a way which is not that selfish kind of love, cos I’ll certainly fall short in so many ways. I have no qualms dating a non-believer. I just don’t like it, being disrespectful about it. The difference between us, Whenever he says the L-word, it’s the kind of love tinted with lust because of the way i look, how could he just say the L-word that easily without really meaning it, because that is not Love. Love is when he has seen aLL my flaws and says, he still loves me, love is despite everything, you still see that person you love without faults because Love is not self seeking.
I’m just ranting, I’m also really tired full on from the lack of sleep, staying up late. This is so weird but I’m really gonna miss rambling on here, when it ceases to exist…
Anywho, I’m glad to have met such awesome interesting people in here. Your entries have enriched my life greatly in ways you’d never imagined, your life is such an inspiration. I thank you all greatly..! Enjoy what remains of the weekend ya’ll and have a freshly baked subway chocolate chip cookie on me but with your money. 
xoxo
Comments (9)
actually, it takes 2 to make a relationship; but only one to break it. sure, most times both parties are in the wrong, but all it takes to break the relationship is one of them not being in “make” mode.
HA! I went to subway and told them Melly from Singapore said I could have a chocolate chip cookie and at first they had this quizzical look on their faces, then asked me to repeat what I said . . . then . . . UGH, it didn’t work Melly!!!
hehehe, you silly girl. BIG HUGZ!!!!
@iones_island - Fair enough but than that’s not love and why be in the relationship not wanting to make it work.. :/
@olwd - Oh i meant with your money and don’t you just love the smell of cookies from the oven Amy! x
@mellywelly15 - i wouldn’t stay in a relationship i didn’t want to work; i have no idea why people do what they do. why enter a relationship in the first place if you don’t want to make it really work.
One of my favorite quotes ever is by A.W. Tozer, and he says: “Has it ever occurred to you that one hundred pianos all tuned to the same fork are automatically tuned to each other? They are of one accord by being tuned, not to each other, but to another standard to which each one must individually bow. So one hundred worshipers met together, each one looking away to Christ, are in heart nearer to each other than they could possibly be, were they to become ‘unity’ conscious and turn their eyes away from God to strive for closer fellowship.” ― A.W. Tozer,
I think that is what is missing in relationships, that is what was missing in my last relationship, the both of us were not seeking God the way we should, we were seeking each other, even trying to find in each other things to fill up/cover up/deal with that only God can.
I had a friend how was willing to give up some basic Christian principals because she was in her 30s and did not want to be alone anymore; she ended up dating a guy who was not a believer. He was a very nice guy, nicer than most of the Christian guys she dated. I remember asking her –so when you guys get old? when you get home from a hard day at work, don’t you want to talk about the things/people you love? and not being able to talk about God to your husband? then what happens?…i told her God is worth her obedience to Him, her relationship to Him is worth more than loneliness.
if two people love the Lord, they will have a clear understanding of how imperfect they are, of the many flaws they each have. Now when their hearts skip a beat when they think of a each other, and what they love about each other is how much that person loves Jesus; grace, patience, dying to ourselves, these things will not come easy but both people have a very big example of those things in their lives as God has loved them.
…i forget where i heard it, but someone said that if you want to know who someone really is, watch how they treat strangers, from waiters to gas station clerks.
Prayer…and prayer…seek the Lord, and that in itself will be such a blessing, and maybe soon or later you will find your piano man
huggs-stephen
@iones_island - I reckon to invest in a relationship with the right person is a tricky thing…:/
@Thebraziliandude - Woah what a revelation!!!! I never thought of it in that way of tuning the musical instrument! I agree to a certain extend, there’s also a verse as in if the believer is married to an unbeliever, the unbeliever is saved?! But yes, better to be wedded to a believer.
If i do get hitched, i’d wanna talk about God, and How Faithful and Good God has been towards me to my spouse and my children. I agree and believe God should be in the center of everything from career to relationships and it is a sad life not having that.
I remember my pastor saying something along that statement and i’m so glad you brought this up. It’s about How the Husband, should take the place as a bride (Man has double portion) and receive the love and fellowship from the Lord and be fully immersed, before he could fulfill his duty as a husband and see her and love her the way Jesus would and he could make love to her like never before… hahaha. I know, my pastor is pretty open and upfront about things, have you not heard about him? Pastor Joseph Prince!
I hope you’d find your piano lady too.. haha
Praise Jesus for you Stephen. With the love of Christ. x
Bear HUGS
A sounds a bit awful :/
@GreekPhysique - With A, i see him as an underdog, and he certainly knows his way to a women’s heart but I’m just tired of all these games already! Oh well, when i turn 30 :( I’ll just have to register myself on whichever dating sites there are and take a leap of faith! :/